One of the most difficult things to do is cope with the loss of a loved one. Losing a loved one for many is not just saying goodbye to the ones they lost. It’s saying goodbye to a part of themselves. They say people who are close to us leave a part of them with each person they touch. Even close friends can leave a huge part of themselves in us. When coping with the loss of your best friend there are many feelings you must deal with.
Our best friends are like our brothers, we have more things in common with our best friends than with our brothers. If you lose them when you are young a part of your identity goes with them. Many people still see their best friends once they are gone into dreams. Some people even claim they talk to them in their dreams. The healthiest thing to do is to remember your friend as he or she was. Life is a cycle and no matter how close of a friendship you have, you need to let go.
The loss of a family member is more difficult to cope. They are people that you see every day, maybe every week. They have your same blood, even your same features. We like to remember them and remember what they like to do. Sometimes we even take on their hobbies.
When it’s your brother or sister it hits even harder. You’re supposed to grow old with your brother and sister. You’re supposed to watch them grow, succeed, have families. When all of that is cut short you may feel that it’s unfair that they didn’t get the chance to carry on.
If it’s your parents, the loss can be devastating. Parents are like angels who look after most of us. You know that if you ever have a problem, or just want to talk to someone you can just pick up your phone and talk to them. Your parent’s voice keeps your comfort and many times hope. Losing a parent while being young can be too much to bear for many people. Having a disability and losing your parents can be a recipe for disaster. When Robbie lost both of his parents within three weeks of each other, he’s aunt knew she would have to think of something to help Robbie cope with the disaster.
Robbie is nine years old and has autism. When Robbie first lost his mother, he asked his aunt were her mother had gone. His aunt said that her mother had crossed the bridge over the rainbow. When Robbie’s father died she gave the same answer. When Robbie’s mother died a rainbow appeared over Robbie’s school and that gave Robbie comfort. Robbie’s aunt decided to go on Facebook and ask people for pictures of rainbows. Whenever Robbie felt sad she would show him the pictures and that would hopefully make Robbie feel better. What she didn’t expect was the response she got.